One of my friends and I were sitting in the last row of the bus while returning from office. We were definitely very good friends but never shared our personal matters. We just started with our usual conversation and ran through the topic of my interest in writing. She happened to share some messages that a guy was sending her. I knew they both were friends. The messages were very romantic and no wonder he is a good writer. I liked his poetry but I didn’t know how to react. Since she seemed to be positive I gave my normal response that her friend is a good writer or poet. Since then she started sharing about her friendship with that guy.
One day she simply said I wonder if he likes me the same way. I didn’t know what she meant by that, but I knew one thing, they liked each other well but did not express it yet.
And then she continued telling, “I went out against my principles for a dinner with him. We hardly spoke to each other. When I picked some topic, he did not make any comments or did not share his views but started with different topic. Somehow I felt he was indifferent towards me. At the end, he did not even ask if I need a drop though it was late in the night. He left me alone and made me feel in-secured.”
I am not the right one to judge as even now I know only side of the story. One thing I know they are still together.
The truth behind love vs compatibility in my words would be- no one said it would be easy, even when you try to step into your partners shoes, the decision which you make may not sound correct for your partner. But one good thing here, you need not have same answer or opinion always. In reality, your mind can not be read by your partner like pre-written lyrics of love song, it involves loads of decision making. Also you both are NOT brought up under same roof. You have two different life stories having different characters and experiences, its fair if you lack compatibility to some extent.
In this world where men and women are competing equally, women are mostly left with tougher choices. (May be even men, in some cases.) So if partners have two different decisions for a situation, that is not a problem but there is a problem if you cannot find love between each other though you are not like minded. Cribbing and criticising won’t help. If you love your partner you will put extra efforts to understand. And if your partner loves you it will be recognized (at some point of time). Your problem doesn’t sound interesting to others as they already knew and have one. By the way, don’t use others brains to know your compatibility as your heart already knows it right.