Does love mean having total compatibility, always?

Love Compatabilty

Love Compatabilty

One of my friends and I were sitting in the last row of the bus while returning from office. We were definitely very good friends but never shared our personal matters. We just started with our usual conversation and ran through the topic of my interest in writing. She happened to share some messages that a guy was sending her. I knew they both were friends. The messages were very romantic and no wonder he is a good writer. I liked his poetry but I didn’t know how to react. Since she seemed to be positive I gave my normal response that her friend is a good writer or poet. Since then she started sharing about her friendship with that guy.

One day she simply said I wonder if he likes me the same way. I didn’t know what she meant by that, but I knew one thing, they liked each other well but did not express it yet.

And then she continued telling, “I went out against my principles for a dinner with him. We hardly spoke to each other. When I picked some topic, he did not make any comments or did not share his views but started with different topic. Somehow I felt he was indifferent towards me. At the end, he did not even ask if I need a drop though it was late in the night. He left me alone and made me feel in-secured.”

I am not the right one to judge as even now I know only side of the story. One thing I know they are still together.

The truth behind love vs compatibility in my words would be- no one said it would be easy, even when you try to step into your partners shoes, the decision which you make may not sound correct for your partner. But one good thing here, you need not have same answer or opinion always.  In reality, your mind can not be read by your partner like pre-written lyrics of love song, it involves loads of decision making. Also you both are NOT brought up under same roof. You have two different life stories having different characters and experiences, its fair if you lack compatibility to some extent.

In this world where men and women are competing equally, women are mostly left with tougher choices. (May be even men, in some cases.) So if partners have two different decisions for a situation, that is not a problem but there is a problem if you cannot find love between each other though you are not like minded.  Cribbing and criticising won’t help.  If you love your partner you will put extra efforts to understand. And if your partner loves you it will be recognized (at some point of time). Your problem doesn’t sound interesting to others as they already knew and have one. By the way, don’t use others brains to know your compatibility as your heart already knows it right.

 

Self-conflict

Self-conflict

‘I don’t like it’, the heart whispered

‘What’s wrong with you?’ the mind roared

‘That’s not my way’ the heart fought back

Think with my help and just hold back

Yes, things are done

And the smile is gone

Mind at peace

But Heart left its place

“Let me put you at ease”

Said the mind trying to please

“Feel the Happiness on your dear ones face

And accept the present with grace”

“Oh, what to do!” the heart grumbled

It said yes and it trembled

Mind at peace

But Heart left its place

Thinking it has no one to save

The fragile heart made up its mind to be brave

It decided to pay deaf ear

With pasted smile on face, it was all set to go infinitely far

Now the mind was at its service

As the heart gave it no other choice

Heart at Peace

And Mind Out Of Place

Whenever the mind tried to interrupt

The push from it was too abrupt

The heart started racing fast

Busy in making choices considering its past

When the heart believed it reached the finishing end

That’s when it found the road with another bend

Heart Out Of Place

As mind tookover the Peace

                                     -D.D

Miss.Communication

Trying to loosen it.

How often the slip between the lip and cup happens to you at work with your team member? When you think its trivial matter but the other person takes it as more than trivial. You say X and the other one understands X as Y and later you realize oh that Y – no way matches with your thought of X!

Yes, it was a rough day for me at work. I ‘m occupied pretty much in the first half of my day.  And I was waiting for the it to end so that I can catch up some book or walking or something better. At strike of 6 I get a call saying –Please Hold On, some work on your way.

I have a very good team and all are good at helping one another. Unfortunately we still have some communication gap at times. It so happened I understood something and left a portion of work waiting for input. Which was correct and not and the person didn’t know what I was waiting on.

Ahh… My intention is not to bring my W.O.R.K as topic of my blog but I want to vent out my lil frustration. I like to write elaborative mails but still Miss.C can creep in. I like to talk and talk but still Miss.C can pop up. Hence I decided to have discussions – be it longer or crisp until I make the person tell what is on my mind.

Hoping for a peaceful week at work !