Are you living your dream or living in dreams?

 “Follow your dream where ever it takes you to, as that’s the journey you would love to be part of.”-D.D – These words always ring in my ear when I think of dreams-coming-true-in-my-life.

Do we live all the dreams that we wish to?

At first, let me share my childhood dreams:

If someone asked me in my childhood, “what you want to become when you grow up?”, I used to say even without a pause; “A doctor”.  Well ‘m still Dr.D but only in dreams.

 I remember the situation when I held my mom’s hand tight and with tears rolling out from my eyes seeing an old lady in front of temple in tattered clothes and miserably lying on street. That day the coin that my mom gave me to offer to the God, I remember giving to that lady while going back to home from temple. That’s the day, I dreamt to see India with NO poverty.

My other dreams are, to read all the books that so far published in the world and to express in BOOKS all my views about this world and to the world.

My silly dream would be, to meet SRK one day. I know I will. 😉  To work from B-44 of Infy (crazy dream infact). To build 7 houses, each one in a different rainbow color to move from one to another whenever I get bored with that color. (Wild childhood dream;P and believe me not a fantasy at all!).

At times reality takes the shape of memories or dreams, in my case it’s listening to my father’s goodnight wishes before going to bed daily.And I miss him.

Well, don’t come into a wrong conclusion that I lived so far only in dreams. Here I go with the best moments of my life where I lived / live to the fullest: After 10 years staying away from home, I ‘m again living with mom in Bengaluru and ‘m loving it. The other dreams that I lived would be, when I got into flight for the first time in my life, while flying to China. When I cheered kids, during my recent visit to an orphanage. When one of my articles got published in The Hindu during my college days. When I topped thrice in my college, consecutively. When I received my first Salary in Infy. When I gave my first speech in Infy Toastmasters (after almost eight years I got onto stage that day.) When I received 4 prices in KTDM Club (on the same day), for indoors games that they conducted during my teens. When I got a mark more than my sis in tenth board. (This one is just to tease my sister who is damn good at studies and has great IQ. ) When I recently visited Stratford-Upon-Avon and called my mom to say- ‘Your lil D is at Shakespeare’s Birthplace mom’. When every time my niece asks me to sing a lullaby and I sing to help her sleep. Most of all, the wonderful people whom I met in life and with whom I share the joy of success and true happiness.

These are few of the best moments in my life which I treasure most. However small they are they mean a lot to me as those are the times I enjoyed/enjoy my life to the fullest and when I look back at them I know I was in lime light.

I know there are times when you enjoy your day to day life. But at times the truth bothers you and scares you being away from your dreams. The shades of your hope get darker and darker, right in front of you.  It makes you feel so alarmed that you end up living not even in dreams. Read my recent blog – ‘The ignored’ which states what if the ignored dreams could speak.

Few random questions to you: But how often do you get time to concentrate on your interests in life when you have to stay focus with work at your hand? What do you do, when you know you are bound to leave your dream as you are diverting yourself away from it? Would you still say YES, when you know you have to say NO to the present to live your dream in real? Do you take the pain of choking your dreams to death or would prefer to sacrifice everything possible just to enjoy living your dream? Above all, will you live in dreams to make others live theirs? I will let you answer these questions to yourself.

In my opinion; YOUR DREAMS WILL COME CHASING U, WHEN U LIVE THE LIFE THE WAY U WANT. – D.D

I would like to be called.. a city gal.

I would like to be called.. a city gal..

I would like to be called.. a city gal..

I like to live in cities. Especially after I came out of college I wanted to be in the midst of city buzz, a happening place and enjoy the freedom of exploring the city on my own. More because I can have avoid aunties in my neighborhood who would peep out of their windows when ‘m late to home, who give any damn suggestion to my mother on how to handle her daughter and don’t ask me how they taught my mom on tips to get me married soon.< I am daughter of lovely mom, and she always took the pressure and listened to my heart. *Touch-wood*>

In city like Bangalore, you can live on your own, yes its true you wont know your neighbors (until they are your owners to whom you to pay the rent) even after 5 or 10 Yrs. Be it.. but if I fall from my bike on street- people gathered to help me, if I ask for routes they try to explain in the language that I know and it is a city with full of gardens and I like to visit any park at least thrice in a week. I enjoy my life, like I want. Its true, I grew affection towards
Bangalore and my lifestyle here.

Childhood days were different. I am fortunate to have a colony life. “Where you don’t look for friends,as they in are your street always, the roads are the play grounds, trees are our swings and our climbing walls & snacks always at friends house. If you want to play for longer time with your friend, introduce your mom to your friend’s mom, they have their chat you can continue your games.” Our final game for the day would be hide and seek with our parents before we get into house.

I miss my childhood days and its sad that I can never get them back. And now I enjoy being an independent girl.

Seven Wonders

I am not in a mood for a lengthy blog, as I am also working on some short story.  And aptly, the Daily Prompt needs some crisp ideas. So here I go with my seven words. Before that let me tell you, I feel thankful for the infinite words that we have – they make reading and writing possible 😉

My Seven words that I believe, can take me to infinite wonders..

My Seven words that I believe, can take me to infinite wonders..

1. Mother
2. Thank You
3. Please
4. Contentment
5. Love
6. Goal
7. Persistence

The Golden Hour

ReadingIsBliss

ReadingIsBliss

If asked, what’s the best time that I spent so far, if not with my dear ones; I would say those times when I was reading books / occasional writing at the late night until dawn.

When it’s quite in the night, with the relief that my day has come to an end, as I sit in my room with curtains swaying to the gentle breeze, collecting my thoughts in the silence and trying to bring them alive on to my laptop screen or reading a favourite book, I can seamlessly enjoy my time. Especially if it’s a Saturday evening, it can’t get any better. During such times, I can’t enjoy with people around and noise. Be it ,everyone needs sometime for themselves.

It is true; I like to dwell in the silence of the night. I find it eternal. I forget the world while living my favourite character of the book or writing what was on my mind.  As I take halt from chasing the time and without any disruptions, I enjoy time as though it’s all mine. Weekends are meant to sleep in the morning and be wake whole night. And I like them, as it is more to do with “what I want to be in life” than “what I have to do”. As we grow older we get busier with daily chores, it’s annoying yet true.

Not always I end up with productive scripts or blogs but surely I feel satisfied.

I make time to enjoy my share of Golden Hour from time. Do you?

Breakdown … On dealing with criticism…

I don't want it

I don’t want it

I find it tough to take criticism, especially from dear ones. It takes long time to get over it. We are ready to share our deepest sorrows and of course the happiness with our dear ones but not criticism.

When a person is not meant for us much, we can pay deaf ear to him/ her( – though not immediately) when they criticize. What if the person who knows us very well, who means a lot to us, criticizes? hmmm… Mostly that means there is a correction to be done on our end but they should have chosen a gentle way to make us understand.

The truth is, our dear ones feel they have every right to correct us.  They may completely forget   that they need to be gentle while correcting us.And I wish I could understand this well when it comes to reality.. 🙂

Does love mean having total compatibility, always?

Read D's Mind

One of my friends and I were sitting in the last row of the bus while returning from office. We were definitely very good friends but never shared our personal matters. We just started with our usual conversation and ran through the topic of my interest in writing. She happened to share some messages that a guy was sending her. I knew they both were friends. The messages were very romantic and no wonder he is a good writer. I liked his poetry but I didn’t know how to react. Since she seemed to be positive I gave my normal response that her friend is a good writer or poet. Since then she started sharing about her friendship with that guy.

One day she simply said I wonder if he likes me the same way. I didn’t know what she meant by that, but I knew one thing, they liked…

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Does love mean having total compatibility, always?

Love Compatabilty

Love Compatabilty

One of my friends and I were sitting in the last row of the bus while returning from office. We were definitely very good friends but never shared our personal matters. We just started with our usual conversation and ran through the topic of my interest in writing. She happened to share some messages that a guy was sending her. I knew they both were friends. The messages were very romantic and no wonder he is a good writer. I liked his poetry but I didn’t know how to react. Since she seemed to be positive I gave my normal response that her friend is a good writer or poet. Since then she started sharing about her friendship with that guy.

One day she simply said I wonder if he likes me the same way. I didn’t know what she meant by that, but I knew one thing, they liked each other well but did not express it yet.

And then she continued telling, “I went out against my principles for a dinner with him. We hardly spoke to each other. When I picked some topic, he did not make any comments or did not share his views but started with different topic. Somehow I felt he was indifferent towards me. At the end, he did not even ask if I need a drop though it was late in the night. He left me alone and made me feel in-secured.”

I am not the right one to judge as even now I know only side of the story. One thing I know they are still together.

The truth behind love vs compatibility in my words would be- no one said it would be easy, even when you try to step into your partners shoes, the decision which you make may not sound correct for your partner. But one good thing here, you need not have same answer or opinion always.  In reality, your mind can not be read by your partner like pre-written lyrics of love song, it involves loads of decision making. Also you both are NOT brought up under same roof. You have two different life stories having different characters and experiences, its fair if you lack compatibility to some extent.

In this world where men and women are competing equally, women are mostly left with tougher choices. (May be even men, in some cases.) So if partners have two different decisions for a situation, that is not a problem but there is a problem if you cannot find love between each other though you are not like minded.  Cribbing and criticising won’t help.  If you love your partner you will put extra efforts to understand. And if your partner loves you it will be recognized (at some point of time). Your problem doesn’t sound interesting to others as they already knew and have one. By the way, don’t use others brains to know your compatibility as your heart already knows it right.

 

Its sad but true..

Its sad, but true.. ah, who knows may be you can still choose :)

Its sad, but true.. ah, who knows may be you can still choose 🙂

I am in very cheerful mood today. The topic “It’s sad but true..” doesn’t strike a chord with me.

Today, I feel like a happy a soul with no complains. I want to really ask when I am this happy, what is hushing the voices that I am otherwise afraid of. Is it  just the mindset? Is it just because I started my day with a big smile and it’s continuing? Or is it that simple that you can freeze happiness in your smile and if you can smile you can be happy?

It’s sad but true, I have no answer for it. We don’t know what tomorrow has in store for us.

As much as we can, let’s keep smiling 🙂